My signature process to developing self-worth

Elevating your relationship with yourself is essential. Realizing that you are worthy of having an incredible relationship with yourself, a relationship that stands the test of time and evolves as you do, is the best investment you will ever make.

A common misconception women have is that once they know the steps of self-love, they believe they will never get tripped up again on their insecurities or self-doubt. As a Self-Love Coach, I can tell you that is not how the cookie crumbles. Knowing the steps isn’t enough to guide you through every challenge that greets you throughout your life. In the case of self-love, knowledge isn’t power, practice is.

Insecurities and self-doubt are like weeds. Even when you successfully rid your garden of them for one season, small sprouts find a way to pop up next season, sprouting in the most unlikely of places. In my programs, I show you the step by step process to overcome any challenge that sprouts in your garden of self-love. In this blog post, I’m going to share with you these steps and explain my process as a Self-Love Coach.

Step 1

There are two types of challenges. Challenge A. rattles us and causes a blockage in flow of love for ourselves and challenge B. trips us up a little bit, but shortly after, we regain our footing. I recommend approaching both challenges the same way.

The first step is to embrace the dark side of your emotions. Let it through, let it run its course and then let it go. Letting it through is tough for a lot of women. They are ashamed of their dark feelings. The darkness makes them feel uncomfortable and ugly, so they hide from it, run from it, and ignore it. What’s worse is when women try to cover up their darkness with false positivity.

In my experience, false positivity only delays overcoming the challenge and intensifies the internal/external pain one feels when working through said challenge. Embracing the dark side of your emotions is an essential first step.

In my 60 day coaching program, Self-Worth Awakening, I guide you through a series of sessions helping you to discover your raw emotions and encourage you to embrace everything-especially the feelings you’d rather avoid.

Step 2

Once you embrace your emotions, the dark and the light, its time to let the emotions run their course. Its not enough to accept that you have those emotions, you need to feel them and let them guide you.

This part of the process looks different for everyone, but there is no right or wrong way. Some women cry, scream, break plates, journal, put on gloves and throw their fists at a punching bag, tear up papers, etc. Connecting to your primal state and just letting loose, in a safe and open area, free of judgement, allows your emotions to be released.

No more suppressing your feelings because its not “lady-like” or “appropriate“. Together, I guide you to create space for yourself to safely and authentically acknowledge and release your emotions.

Step 3

After that, healing can begin. As your coach, I guide you with the tools and practices to slowly but surely build yourself back up. This part of the process involves a lot of deep reflection. Throughout your time reflecting, we consciously focus on being gentle and compassionate with yourself, inviting as much love in as possible.

The combination of authentic reflection and compassion creates a strong foundation of love and respect for yourself. You feel stable and strong, knowing that your emotions are safe. And from this feeling of safety, you feel empowered to let go of any self-doubt and insecurities.

Step 4

The final step is leaning into self-care practices to reaffirm your relationship with yourself. This is a tangible experience that illustrates that you are worthy of being loved. You are worthy of healing. You are worthy of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself, no matter how many times you need to start from the beginning.

Self-care looks different for everyone. There is a surplus of ways to nourish your relationship with yourself from the inside out. Utilizing self-care practices sustains your wellness and supports you as you continue to focus on your relationship with yourself.

If you feel overwhelmed reading these steps and want to press the easy button to developing self-worth, I invite you to schedule a free 15 minute discovery call with me. During this call, I’ll answer any questions you have and share with you the best steps to prioritize developing self-worth.

How these steps have guided me throughout my journey

As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, nobody, even me, is free from new challenges threatening their relationship with themselves. Throughout my journey, new weeds have sprouted up in the most unlikely of places: in romantic relationships, with friends, at work, even throughout pregnancy.

Every challenge has presented different angles and depths than previous struggles. For some instances, the same strategy helped me overcome these challenges, but most of the time, I’ve had to discover new approaches to truly heal and revitalize my relationship with myself.

That’s because each challenge is different! When I struggled finding my internal/external value after being cheated on, I needed to take time to abstain from all romantic relationships and get to know myself. When I struggled to cut ties with my best friends from college, I needed to actively pursue new friendships, to make room for happiness and laughter. And throughout my pregnancy, I’ve had to lean into my support system, to not endure this journey alone. I tend to lone wolf it and have felt extremely challenged needing to rely on others, but this approach has been the most successful to overcome this chapter of my journey.

The steps of developing self-worth, of healing, are always the same, but the steps don’t always lead you down the same path and that’s okay.

Self-love is a beautiful journey, one that is always worth the effort. Now that you know my secret process to developing self-worth, you can begin to address the feelings of self-doubt and insecurities that are holding you back.

If you have any questions or want more info on how to get started, email me or send me a message on IG! I’m always just a message away <3


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